|Frost by Sleepy|
Skimming through the endless depths of the internet this week I was hit with a sudden bout of nostalgia for when I first discovered lolita. It was around 2007 and the online community had a number of different ideas about what it meant to be a lolita. Some girls were entirely taken with the idea that to wear such beautiful clothes, one must take on some sort of stately Victorian airs and uphold a certain moral code. Others firmly rejected this idea with the concept that altering one's mannerisms to match one's looks was far too close to cosplay for comfort. Regardless of which side of the argument you were on, one of the most famous lolita blogs at the time was The Princess Portal run by the lovely Princess Skye. This Australian lolita captured the hearts of many with her poetic writing style, ethereal photos, and charming stories of her life as a lifestyle lolita. She is the author of the famous 101 Lolita Lifestyle Ideas post on EGL and was active between December 2006 and April 2012. Though she left the scene quietly, Princess Skye left behind one of the most beautiful and uplifting legacies the fashion has ever seen. From her writings on beauty to her very own Princess Code, Skye fueled a romanticism for the lifestyle lolita which still persists today. Whether you agree that lolitas should act like princesses or not, the Princess Code lays the foundation for a beautiful life centered around building up one's idea of self worth and inspiring the same confidence in as many people as possible.
The Princess CodeA Princess inspires others to follow their hopes and dreams through pursuing her own.
A Princess greets everyone with a welcoming smile, melting the hearts of friends and disarming her enemies.
A Princess has dignity, which protects her from the opinions and spite of ignorant people.
A Princess always looks beautiful, even when she is asleep.
A Princess aims for perfection in every step.
A Princess should be given fresh flowers everyday, even if she has to give them to herself.
A Princess grows in recognition and stature in proportion to how much she treats others as royalty.
A Princess reflects her inner beauty in her aesthetic choices.
A Princess goes to war against the violence of incivility with the weapons of etiquette and prodigal generosity.
A Princess lives each day from the heart, expressing herself freely and treasuring every moment.
A Princess has the right to spend her funds on beautiful things she does not need because beauty in itself is priceless.
A Princess should follow her heart and believe in her dreams, even if the whole world seems to be against her.
A Princess respects her environment and nurtures the beauty of nature.
A Princess is never too busy to give a kind word or smile where it is needed.
A Princess’s most precious jewel is Hope, which lights her darkest days and shows her the beauty in every soul she meets.
----------While a number of points might seem over the top, the code is, at its core, as elegant as it is inspiring. One need not be a lifestyle lolita to live by the code; rather, lolita fashion simply provides a catalyst by invoking the romanticism associated with Victorian England and Rococo France. By clothing ourselves in beautiful designs made from sumptuous fabrics, we are reminded to love and respect ourselves as much as we love and respect our clothes. We are encouraged to remember that treating oneself to luxury is the best medicine to soothe a tired soul. And we are urged to treat others with the same unfailing respect and decorum as every human being deserves. The Princess Code is a reminder that the world is a beautiful place full of beautiful people, even if it may sometimes appear otherwise. There is always a silver lining to the raincloud, and we are encouraged to partake in that positivity and spread it to our own sphere of influence. This is not our goal as lolitas, but rather our goal as human beings who are all part of this crazy connected world.
Though Princess Skye has since moved on to more vibrant salons, she left us with one of the most positive lessons one can learn from fashion: ultimately we must love ourselves and remember that we are the only ones capable of altering our concept of self worth. Though you might not live every day as a princess, I hope that its essence will be a guiding light to you in dark and stormy places as it has been to me.